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Thursday, October 4, 2007

This Year, Give the Gift That Really Counts...

Okay. Enough. Enough of me thinking of all the things that could (and probably will) go bad after Poor Kyle and I get married. You know? People, they get married all the time. Sure, men can be forgetful and women can be nags. I, of all people, should know that very well. But those are things that simply are not important. What's important are the sacrifices people make for one another. That's how I know Kyle kind of likes me--the things he does to help me out, at no personal gain to himself. Like the time he drove straight down from Canada in 19 1/2 hours in March, to be by my side at my grandpa's funeral. Or waiting many extra months to marry me so I could run off to Europe and experience before we got all poor and married. He could have very easily found a nice sweet Canadian girl--fresh out of high school--to fill the void. Or when he gives up his hoodie for me to wear when I am unprepared for those (sometimes unexpectedly) frigid days.

And he ought to know I kind of like him, too. Ever since Junior High, my plans were to graduate from Westwood, get a degree in something fancy, and move to Manhattan as a highly successful 23 year-old single yuppy in a greystone apartment on 5th avenue. (You think I'm joking, but that really was my plan. Oh no, I didn't care what my career was, just as long as the means justified the Big Apple end.) My minimum marriage age was 25. Minimum. I tell him sometimes that I love him 4 years in New York.

Anyway, I guess what I am getting at is this: if I do things that bother Kyle, he will get over them. Because he loves me. And vice-versa. We sacrifice for one another, and that makes the difference between a marriage and a divorce (this coming from a girl who actually knows nothing about anything). Give the gifts that count...that's all I have to do to live happily ever after...right?


Anonymous Anonymous said...

I would say you're right on, Mill. Before we got married (or engaged, for that matter), Clint and I were discussing the most important elements of a relationship; Clint suggested selflessness and I suggested respect. I think they both go hand-in-hand, and I think that's essentially what you're saying in this blog. My personal, novice opinion is that if two people treat one another with respect, and always try to think of the other one first, yes, a successful marriage is inevitable.

October 4, 2007 at 11:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

P.S.: That is a lovely picture of you and Kyle. You look very skinny!

October 5, 2007 at 12:02 AM  
Blogger Loralee Choate said...

I'm trying to figure out why anyone would want to marry someone "Fresh out of high school".


Besides, he gives up his hoodie for you. Now THAT'S love.


October 5, 2007 at 12:43 AM  
Blogger linda rae said...

aawwwww...this actually made me cry.

Very well expressed.

October 5, 2007 at 5:15 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Camille, everything will be great. Just remember to serve one another. You should always honor and respect the Priesthood that he holds, and he should honor and respect you in all your quirkiness.

Marriage isn't easy. It's a lot of work. Every day. But it's SO worth all the effort.

October 5, 2007 at 10:58 AM  
Blogger The Lowry's said...

I just wanted to quickly say that I am also stalking you by reading your blog. Anyways, just remember to treat him like your best friend because he is. Don't treat him any less than that. Sometimes we get too comfortable with one another (and we should be totally comfortable with one another) but hopefully you know what I am trying to say.
I think selflessness is the key. That is my two bits.

October 5, 2007 at 12:31 PM  
Blogger Geevz said...

So you weren't alone with the whole 25 minimum. I had grand plans for student teaching in Japan, studying abroad, and a million other. I was so set that I told John after a couple dates that if he was looking to get married, I wasn't going to go out with him ever again. I didn't get very far with that one :S But if you ever find yourself sighing about New York, remember that if you want to, you can make it happen, this time with company :)And you really do look fabulous in that picture

October 5, 2007 at 3:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

The New York goal I think is fairly common among young women. But I sure can't imagine it. Fighting all that traffic and congestion day in and day out. No thank you. I think you are making a grand decision. The Canadians will love you! ~A

October 5, 2007 at 8:06 PM  
Blogger Kathryn said...

Ryan once wrote me a little love note saying that he loves all my little quirks. So when I do something dumb or stupid, I just remind him of that little note.

October 5, 2007 at 8:26 PM  
Blogger Amy said...

I LOVE that picture of you two. So cute.
Sometimes finding that person we were meant to be with happens at the craziest most unpredictable time in our lives. I know it sure happened that way with me, but in the end I wouldn't have it any other way.

October 8, 2007 at 5:42 PM  

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